Want to know how to turn him on instantly?
His neck is one of his most sensitive areas (that’s easily accessible).
Done right, a kiss on his neck can immediately disarm him. Even if he’s in a bad mood he can’t help but feel butterflies when your lips touch his neck.
Follow these neck kissing tips to leave an impression he won’t soon forget.
Step 1: Make sure you have an opening
Be careful with neck kissing! It’s not always easy access.
For one thing, he could move his head at the last second and accidentally hit you.
The best way to avoid that is to move in slowly. Plus you don’t want to freak him out by making a sudden lunge at his neck like a vampire.
Obviously if his head is tilted to one side, go for the other.
If you’re standing behind him with your arms around him that’s a perfect time to kiss the back of his neck. Otherwise stick with the side.
What if his shoulders are blocking his neck?
You have two options here:
- Don’t kiss his neck 🙁
- Gently put your hand on his shoulder and press down so he exposes his neck to you
You don’t need to press too hard at the beginning. Just enough to let him feel your lips on his neck, barely.
Make it even hotter by breathing softly on his neck. Breathing on his neck tells him you want him and it will turn him on big time.
You can do this for just a few seconds if you wish, but feel free to go a bit longer. It will tease him and make him anticipate what’s to come.
Step 3: Start Kissing Above His Collarbone
This is one of the most sensitive areas of his neck. If you want to arouse him quickly this is one of the best areas to focus on.
At this point your kisses can be more firm. If you followed step 2 then he’s already been eagerly anticipating your kiss. Now it’s time to let him have it.
But still be sure not to go overboard. If you press too firmly with you lips you might cause discomfort, especially if he’s extra sensitive in that area.
Word of caution: If your man isn’t too used to this type of thing, or if the two of you are just beginning your relationship, this might be as far as you want to go. Just these three steps will cause him plenty of stimulation.
Step 4: Mix It Up a Bit
If you want to keep going, try mixing things up.
For example, if you’ve been focusing on the area between his collarbone and shoulder, try kissing up toward his jaw.
You can also try using your tongue! Again, do it lightly, but if you want to gently lick the side of his neck – go for it. If he’s already turned on then this will take things to another level.
[Optional] Step 5: Whisper Something In His Ear
Since you’re already in the area, you might want to add to the experience by whispering something in his ear.
At this point it hardly matters what you say. Don’t overthink it. Just tell him how much you want him, or that you’ve been thinking about this all day.
Of course, use your judgement here. If the two of you are still getting to know each other you might not know what types of things he likes to hear. In that case either keep it simple, or don’t say anything at all.
This is also a great thing to do when he is kissing your neck.
Don’t force it. If you repeat some line you found on the internet, it could come out sounding forced and awkward, and hurt the mood.
[Optional] Step 6: Escalate Further
Just kissing his neck will be plenty intimate. You can stop here and he’ll be plenty aroused.
But neck kissing is also a great starting point if you want to go further. You can transition from kissing his neck to kissing his chest (if his shirt’s off). Or this could also be a good time to start taking off his shirt if you feel up for it. Or, let him start kissing your neck. 😉
Point is, there’s a million different ways you can go further from here.
How Long Should I Kiss His Neck?
There’s no right answer here. But usually, less is more.
Think about it: would you rather he was left wanting more? Or get bored and lose interest because you’ve been kissing the same spot for too long.
What If He Has A Beard?
If you like the way his facial hair feels on your face and lips, then don’t let his beard stop you!
You can look for exposed skin to kiss. If his beard is really thick and most of his front is covered in hair, try focusing more on the back half of his neck.
Keep in mind that facial hair is more coarse than other hairs, so it can cause redness if you brush your face against it too much.
What About Hickeys?
Hickeys aren’t very popular these days, and for good reason. They leave a big red mark that’s an unmistakable sign that somebody was necking you.
Your partner probably has a job or school to go to and he doesn’t want everybody knowing the details of his personal life based on a mark on his neck.
It’s best to avoid giving him a hickey. Do this simply by not kissing/sucking/biting in one area for too long.
If you do accidentally cause a hickey, no worries! Apply ice to the area for a few minutes after and he should be all clear. (Of course, you might end up killing the mood…)